How to develop emotional intelligence: ; First step: Name your emotions. Naming your emotions give you power. When you name an emotion you gain perspective. ; Second step: Accept your emotions.
Accept all of them! It can be challenging because emotions can be good but they can also be bad. ; Third step: Express your emotions. Speak without blaming others for the way you feel.
Start by saying “I” messages. ; Fourth step: Respond rather than react. You can do this by starting to move from mindless reactions to mindful actions. ; Fifth step: Make decisions with Emotional intelligence.Use your “gut feeling” to tell when an action might violate your values or hurt someone. Just think of emotions as energy.
Collaborating for success: ; Collaborating for success means to work on teams. Not all the teams are the same. Use some of this information to make your team create a difference. ; Start by bringing lessons from the past: With your team share your best and worst experience. Then make agreements on how to prevent the problems you had with your old team(s). ; Apply cycle of learning to teams: (from chapter 1) in your team there is a lot f different ways of learning styles.
Turn that into a positive strength in your team. ; Get involve and commit to its purpose. ; Think about which agreements and actions will help the team. ; Listen to what other team members say and stay open to new ideas. ; Make clear decisions and take prompt on doing. ; Share roles: begin by choosing a leader with vision and charisma and expertise.
; Even out the workload: ask other team members to do the work you been doing.